So here is my question…and since I am done having kids, I am applying this to my mothering also….How will I cope when something unexpected happens and options are pulled away from me? I would hope that I wouldn’t become bitter. I would hope that I could find forgiveness. I would hope that I could find peace. I would hope that I could use my experience to teach others. Those are kind of tough things. These are the questions and answers that only I can create. When we ask ourselves these questions and explore the answers we add a sense of control to our births. So as we prepare, we find that we know ourselves and are more in tune with our own needs.